How I am Changing my Life in 2019 Post Trauma: Accountability and Intentionality

2018 was a diff… blah blah blah, we’ve heard it all before. Honestly, I’m over it. It’s such a weird place to be to want to use my experiences to help others, but also I’m just really tired of writing/saying the words “hard year,” “difficult,” “traumatic,” etc.

It’s definitely a space in time that I want to honor because I’ve learned so much about myself through it all, I just need to find a way to share these lessons in a way that doesn’t continue to harp on about it. Know what I mean?

Let’s just put it this way. In 2018 I created a change of perspective that has had a massively positive impact on my life. There are a few different tactics I used to do so and I want to continue to bring those to the blog and to my YouTube channel. Not because I want to preach or give out the impression that I’ve “figured it all out,” but rather I believe that the universe works in magical ways and someone, somewhere needs to hear exactly what I have to say so they can start on their own path of healing.

Good? Great! We’re ready to move into in then.

In the video below I briefly explain a technique I used that helped me create a concrete plan for a better 2019. What to do, how to do it, and what order to do it in. So not only will this video be helpful for you, it will also give you an inside look into some of my flaws or mishaps and how I plan to overcome them.

HOW TO START making positive change in your own life:

Make 3 detailed lists

  1. Things I love about myself/my life
  2. Things I dislike about myself/my life
  3. Things I am neutral about and accept as a flawed but fantastic part of who I am

Each list is pretty self explanatory, except perhaps the neutral list. The items on the neutral list are things that you don’t love or hate, but they are apart of your life and you think about them every once in awhile. For example, aging. You don’t love it, you don’t hate it, it just is.

Start this exercise by focusing on the middle list. Beside each item you dislike, write a plan of action so that the item can be moved up (to things I love) or down (to things I am neutral about.)

For exampleSomething I dislike is that my house is not “homey.” I’ve always placed my priorities money elsewhere and never took the time to commit to making my house feel like a home. This becomes a problem because I work from home, I spend the majority of my day here, and I hate that my husband doesn’t come home to a welcoming space after a long day at work. As someone who really feeds off of the energy of my surroundings, this had to change for the betterment of my mental health.

SolutionI started working with Havenly to help with design decisions and create a ready-to-purchase list of items so I’m not spending my time and energy going business to business looking for decorations.

By the end of this exercise you should have a plan of attack for each item on your “dislike” list which will allow you to make progress that leaves you feeling better about yourself and your life.

It’s just that simple!

I’m not a fan of living in a victim mentality but I also consistently feel overwhelmed. Creating this list allows me to look at anything I perceive as a negative in my life and make a step, whether big or small, to turn it into something that brings me joy.

I hope it does the same for you!

Good luck, t.


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