Valentine’s Day as a Minimalist Couple or the Intentional Gal who is Loving Herself

It’s almost Valentine’s Day!

Real talk, Valentine’s Day receives a lot of flak; “a holiday based on consumerism” they say.

But like, who is “they,” and what do “they” really know?

At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love and because I’m obsessed with my man hunk of a husband I am ALL about it.

Sexy love

Also though, my mom raised us celebrating every holiday, big or small. Nothing was overlooked. Green eggs on Saint Patrick’s Day (2018 me will skip the eggs,) personalized ornaments on Christmas, candy in our lunch box on Valentine’s Day… you get the gist. Needless to say, I’ve passed these traditions on to my own children so we embrace the day, ya feel me?

So here I am, scrolling through YouTube and I see Gift Guide this and The Best Gifts for Him that. While that’s fun and great, these videos don’t align with my life of minimalism and intention. I want to add more to the conversation. I want more for the woman who craves a deeply intimate relationship with those they love, free of expectations and material goods.    

With that, I am going to share the ways we celebrate Valentine’s Day as a minimalist couple, but many of these tips can apply to the single gal living her best life as well! This is probably one of the easiest days in the entire year to show your partner or friends how much you love them. With a little bit of intention and a lot of love, you can make this Valentine’s Day one they will never forget!

First things first, determine your partner’s love language. 

The idea of “love languages” was established by Gary Chapman who believes there are five ways we express and experience love:

  1. Receiving gifts
  2. Quality time
  3. Words of affirmation
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

Ladies, you may assume your man’s love language is “physical touch” but you would be surprised by how untrue this is for so many men.

My husband’s love language is in fact “physical touch.” This is hard for me because I have never been a touchy feely person (ya girl loves her space.) But because I know this is how he feels loved I do small things through the day like grab for his hand, slap his butt, or cuddle next to him in bed before we fall asleep.

My love language is “quality time.” I crave one-on-one with my husband no matter what is going on around us. If we are having an unusually busy week, all I need is two minutes to really connect and be fully present with one another.

Determining your partners love language can mean the difference between buying a nice gift for Valentine’s Day or ending the day cuddled up on the couch watching a movie. You can buy the nicest, most expensive gift possible but if his love language is “acts of service” the gift won’t mean squat.


Plan a quick trip.

This doesn’t have to be expensive and extravagant. It could be a weekend camping in Big Bear or an overnight stay in a hotel one city over. Planning a quick trip is the perfect way to celebrate your love without all the distractions of your day to day life back home. I once drove over 14 hours to spend one night with my husband while he was away for training in the Marine Corps. One night had an incredible impact that we will never forget.

Purchase tickets to an experience.

I will always pick an experience over a material item and my husband is the same. Material items wear out and break, memories are forever.

Need some ideas?

  • Take a cooking class
  • Surprise him with tickets to see his favorite band live
  • Book a flight home to visit his family
  • Go camping
  • Gift him tickets to see his favorite sport team play
  • Sign him up for a new skill he’s always wanted to do (scuba diving? Cooking?)

Sharing an experience is something neither of you will forget and you just might learn something new about yourselves in the process!

A night in.

Ding ding ding! We have a winner. Forget fighting the crowds at the hottest restaurant. Give me a spot next to my man on the couch, a comfy blanket, a bucket of popcorn, and a good movie.. I am GOOD! Feel free to spice it up so it’s not your typical Netflix and chill. Indulge in junk food you never eat, wear a sexy pair of pjs, or camp out in the living room.

The fun thing about Valentine’s Day is it’s another day to celebrate love, but to shake It up a bit!

Prepare a bath.

Whether you are loving on yourself this year or celebrating with your significant other, you can’t go wrong with a bath!

Single? Pour a glass of wine, grab your favorite book, and put in a good hair mask. In a relationship? Light some candles, put on your best playlist, and share a plate of chocolate dipped strawberries.

By the way, I don’t like chocolate dipped strawberries. This is a perfect example of “I did it for the blog.” How’s that for full transparency? 

Make your bath more luxurious by using bath salts and bath bombs; turn on essential oils, add some bubbles, and light candles, turning off the overhead lights.

Spa Bath

And finally, you can’t go wrong with a gift card.

Here’s the thing, you could guess what your partner wants and risk wasting money, as well as bringing unnecessary items into your home. Or you can give them a gift card to their favorite store so they can buy something they want but have been hesitant to spend their own money on.

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Anyways, I’m off to try and convince my husband to watch Fifty Shades with me. I mean, it can only benefit him am I right?

Tell me about your Valentine’s Day. Are you going out with a hottie? Staying in with one? Cooking? Postmating? Tell me PLEASE!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

XO tara

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